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Dr. Gary Chapman, best‑selling author of The 5 Love Languages®, joins host Glen Smith to share practical ways couples, parents, and teams can feel more connected. From the 0–10 check‑in to learning a language that doesn’t come naturally, you’ll hear simple, repeatable habits you can start this week. We also explore how these ideas lower stress around money and decisions at home.
Most relationship breakdowns aren’t dramatic, they’re drifts. Phones crowd out quality time. We do helpful things but not the ones that actually make our spouse feel loved. Money talks start with criticism instead of curiosity. Small frictions compound. A common language, and a few guardrails, keeps the emotional climate warm and the planning conversations calm.
1) “What are the Five Love Languages—really?”
Words of Affirmation · Acts of Service · Receiving Gifts · Quality Time · Physical Touch. The right one is the one that fills your person’s love tank, not the one that comes easiest to you.
2) “What if our languages don’t match?”
That’s normal. Love can start with one person. Observe what they praise, request, and complain about. Start speaking their language consistently. Results spark curiosity.
3) “How do we make this work with kids and busy schedules?”
You can spot a child’s language by age four. Teens often keep the same language but need a different dialect (e.g., private vs. public touch; grown‑up affirmation). Schedule short, undistracted time blocks, phones down, eyes up, to invest in those you care most about.
4) “Can people learn a language they never received?”
Yes. Skill beats instinct. Build simple scripts, practice aloud, and level up, like the dad who learned to hug his son one step at a time.
5) “How does this help our money conversations?”
When people feel loved, talks stay collaborative. Add simple ground rules: a personal‑spend limit before check‑ins; shared visibility into bills and goals; handle finances as an act of service, not a scoreboard.
6) “How do we keep connection on the front burner?”
Every few weeks, ask: “On a scale of 0–10, how much love did you feel coming from me this week?” If <10, ask: “What’s one thing I could do this week that would be most meaningful?” Do it.
7) “What repairs the inevitable misses?”
Apologies. None of us are perfect. Barriers don’t melt with time; they melt with sincere apology and chosen forgiveness.
It’s usually not a grand gesture; it’s a system: tiny, repeatable habits that keep love (and planning) current. Don’t ask, “Do we know each other’s language?” Ask, “When did we last use it, on purpose?”
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